ANOTHER birthday has come and gone and I have sensed it is time to get in touch with my Inner Sex Goddess and shore up my own sense of self-worth.
And so count this as a rallying cry to all women over 40.
Despite what you see in the media, there are not two ages – your 20s and dead.
Yes, I know it can feel like that sometimes, in a world where we glorify the sexually potent youth that we enjoy fleetingly between about 18 and 35.
But, let‘s face it, the majority of our life will be spent being referred to as older, middle aged, or just plain old. How ridiculous.
For women, the old double standard is alive and well – not just gender pay inequality, but sexual inequality. A man over 50 is still considered attractive and potent whereas a woman over 50 needs Botox, new boobs and a butt lift before being considered a “babe” if, indeed, that is what she wants to be considered.
Enough already I say. Power to women of all ages, but especially those being relegated to the back of the queue.
Once again abandon the bra – the push up, the padded, the lift and separate.
Dress “inappropriately” i.e. bikini top and shorts if it’s too hot for sensible clothing, complete with a bit of a muffin top hanging out.
Play up your good bits – your shapely calves, your delightful ear lobes, your beautiful hands –with your favourite clothes or jewellery if you so desire. And don’t label anything on your body bad.
If you’re fit, and it works, it’s good. The alternative is infinitely less appealing.
Be strong. Use your muscles. Strengthen your bones. Work your mind. A beautiful mind and heart are better than a a pair of silicone 36Ds.
Take up role models – women famous or otherwise who are comfortable in their own skin, no matter what their age.
I often hear women bemoan the lack of sane, single, available men and you may just be in the wrong place, in the wrong generation. But, if it’s a man you’re after, you only need one good one so forget about lack of and concentrate on abundance.
Reclaim your right to be sexual and sexy. Younger men why not? Older men too? Any man you want really, or not. Or no men, if that’s your choice.
Don’t be boxed, pigeonholed, or patronised. More wrinkles, or a softer butt doesn’t mean you’re past your use by date. Hell, you’re in your prime.
Recently the fashion designer Tom Ford said: “I am tired of the cult of youth. The cultural rejection of old age, the stigmatisation of wrinkles, grey hair, of bodies furrowed by the years. I am fascinated by Diana Vreeland, Georgia O’Keefe and Louise Bourgeois, women who have let time embrace them without every cheating. Society today condemns this. Me, I celebrate it.”
I sense the world is turning. Let’s not wait too long to play catch up.

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out /  Change )

Google photo

You are commenting using your Google account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s